Become more married, and better married
Here’s a great article by David Schnarch, a couples therapist and author I’ve recommended a lot over the years. This article summarizes neatly what he says in his books. A key quotation: “The Sexual Crucible Approach encourages people to make use of the opportunity offered by marriage to become more married and better married, by becoming more grown-up and better at staking out their own selfhood” (emphasis mine).
And just a quick reminder: for me, ‘marriage’ is not what most people think it is. Marriage is any relationship between two people of any gender in which both persons are drawing closer together in a long-term bond of emotional and physical intimacy, in the context of a supportive community.
