Don’t talk so much!
It’s common to think, “We just need to communicate better.” Or, “We should just talk it out. We never talk about our problems.” But sometimes that’s not the solution. I posted earlier this year on the idea that sometimes it’s better to just give your partner a little space and time to wrestle with stuff. You may feel wronged or hurt or angry about something, or you may feel you have the answer your partner needs, but the better choice is to let your partner take care of it.
Well now I have a little more backup on this idea! Barbara Graham, on Oprah’s Web site, offers a how-to called “How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It.” This is good news for those who aren’t all that great at verbal communication, but also for those who are very good at it and don’t realize that there are other ways to connect powerfully with your partner. Check it out!
Note: the Graham article is geared toward heterosexual couples, but the concepts apply to all couples. Don’t worry if you’re both women, or you’re both men…non-verbal communication works for everybody.
(And h/t to my webmaster, who found this article.)
