From the archive: “I really screwed up. Now what?”
Lots of my clients struggle with defensiveness. (They’re not alone. So do I, and so do most of my friends and family.) Defensiveness is usually about something that you haven’t worked on within yourself. It may be that you are being attacked unfairly and need to defend yourself for a good reason, but it’s (possibly) more likely that your defensive stance masks an issue you are wrestling with, deep down. My post from last May can help you explore this.
